As I construct this blog post, outside the snow is falling; it’s been falling non-stop for twenty-four hours now. Just days ago, the sun was making a slush pile of what little snow was left, but you know what they say about the month of March ~~ With no option otherwise, we must re-don the cold gear and shovel ourselves out again, if we simply wish to leave the house, or let the dog outside. Having no choice in matters forces us to accomplish the necessities. It seems that when we have the option to consider a selection, we will most often take the easy route or the most pleasurable one. Not so, in the notions of how our memories work when we encounter a negative experience. Quite the opposite, actually! According to many neurological and sociology experts, our knee-jerk tendency is to side with the negative and stay that way. Our natural tendency is to linger in negative thoughts, much more so than positive ones.
Many individuals I deal with in my line of resume construction are moving in negative spaces, since many of them are out of work, actively seeking work, too depressed to get out of bed or, quite frankly, angry about their circumstances. I don’t have to tell you that these levels of negativity are unhealthy and refute the necessity at hand, which (in these cases) is to establish positive changes. According to Dr. Rick Hanson, a psychologist and expert of well-being, our bodies are wired to pick up on and retain negative experiences and impressions much more effectively than positive ones. He explains in his blog that the neural substrates of the mind are fully capable of being retrained to counter this effect, but we are genetically positioned this way so that we can deal with threats quickly (ie: fight or flight).
So, when we are let go of our job, or our boss gives us ‘positive criticism’ what resonates loudest is the negativity of the experience, rather than the potential that may evolve from the circumstances that are out of our control. Dr. Hanson’s blog explains the science of this theory, but for the sake of this sharing, the point I’m trying to enhance is that although we may not always be able to contro
l the circumstances we are forced into (ie: snowstorms or sh*tstorms), we actually do possess the ability to control our emotions, especially if we are aware of how we are wired by nature.
I challenge you to embrace a new strategy of positive thinking, if for no other reason than to reduce stress and alter how it suppresses progress. If knowledge is power then together we are already two steps ahead of negativity. For me, it’s time for to go skiing.
In a positive light,